If It Helps Only One Person, is It Worth It?

Is Bullying Prevention Worth It?

Over the past five years I’ve done bullying prevention assemblies at over 500 schools, and I’ve often heard people say, “Ya know… if this helps even one person, it’s totally worth it!”

I always nod in agreement because every single life is infinitely valuable. On the other hand, I’ve always thought of it as just a nice saying. I mean, if it only helps one student, is it worth it financially? Honestly, I couldn’t live with myself if my speeches and curriculum only helped a small number of kids. Thankfully I’ve seen the proof and received the thank-you letters, so I don’t doubt the effectiveness of my program. I’ve only ever doubted the statement about the one person. (more…)

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The Difference Between Bullying & Teasing

When I speak at school assemblies, people often ask “What is the difference between bullying and teasing?” Bullying is a hot button issue for sure, and I can see why some people feel it is overplayed. If all we do is “raise awareness” about bullying (rather than teach kids how to respond to it), then guess what happens? Kids report a lot of bullying. So what is bullying? (And what isn’t bullying?) (more…)

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Can Teachers Bully Students?

A parent recently asked me: “Is it possible for a teacher to bully a student?”  In essence she was saying, “My child is being bullied by a teacher, but I don’t know what to do about it.” As a parent myself, I know where she’s coming from. We’ve had a couple (not a lot) of negative experiences with teachers over the years, and it definitely feels like bullying. The behavior is much the same: one person attempts to take power over another person in a way that is negative, hurtful, or abusive. So is it “bullying” for a teacher to treat a student in this way? (more…)

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3 Times to Step In When Your Child Is Bullied

As a parent, I know what it’s like to have a child come home from school after being bullied. It breaks your heart. The struggle for many parents is to know when to step in and intervene, and when to step back and give kids the space to try and solve it themselves. Of course, we should always help our kids by being good listeners and providing advice for how to respond to bullying. But when should we step in and intervene for our kids? (more…)

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3 Times to Step Back When Your Child is Bullied

This article has the potential to make a lot of people angry. As a full time anti-bullying speaker, would I ever advise parents to “step back” when their kids are bullied. Well… yes. Sometimes. But that doesn’t mean we should refuse to help them. What I mean is: there are times when our help isn’t help at all – times when we can accidentally make the situation worse. (more…)

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How to Respond to a Bully (In the Moment)
Little girl feeling depressed after reading text message on mobile telephone in home bedroom. Concept of bullying and loneliness among preteens

How to Respond to a Bully (In the Moment)

A lot of parents tell their kids, “Don’t let the bullies get the best of you.” It’s a popular thing to say. It has a nice ring to it. Obviously no one wants to give the best parts of themselves to a bully. The crazy thing is: this same saying can mean different things to different people, and how you understand it makes all the difference.

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How to Respond to Cyberbullying
education, cyberbullying and people concept - sad student boy with on laptop computer at home suffering of bullying

How to Respond to Cyberbullying

We all know that the internet emboldens students to be mean online. So how do you respond to cyberbullying without stooping to their level? In this video blog post, I describe the top ten ways to end cyberbullying. (more…)

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Setting Boundaries With Bullies
School psychologist analyzing the teenager's behavior during workshops

Setting Boundaries With Bullies

Do you really have to be bullied by the words and opinions of other people? In this video post about bullying, I explain two positive ways students can respond without giving power to the bully. Ultimately bullying is about power. They might try to take it from you, but you don’t have to give it to them. (more…)

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What is Bullying?
Teenage Boy Being Bullied At School

What is Bullying?

“He’s bullying me!”  “She’s bullying me!!”  On many school campuses, the term “bullying” has become more of a joke than a real accusation. The term is used so often that it loses its power. As a full time anti-bullying speaker, I help students understand the real meaning of what is bullying? (more…)

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